Joseph Monroe “Buster” Abel, a beloved figure in Stafford County, passed away on August 29, 2001, at the age of 80. He left behind a legacy of service, dedication, and love for his family and country. Despite facing loss and challenges, his life was defined by resilience and warmth. These qualities were deeply felt by all who had the privilege of knowing him.
Born in Prince William County, Buster Abel was a man whose life spanned generations and whose work touched the lives of many. His enduring contributions to his community, his time as a World War II Army Veteran, and his devotion to his family are just a few aspects of the man that made him unforgettable.
A Life of Service: Work and War
Buster Abel’s story was one of deep service. For over 20 years, he worked as a foreman for the Virginia Department of Transportation, a role that required a great deal of responsibility, knowledge, and commitment. Additionally, his work was vital to the infrastructure of the state and, by extension, the lives of countless Virginians who relied on safe roads and transportation. During this time, Buster built a reputation for being dependable, hardworking, and dedicated, qualities that earned him the respect of his colleagues and community.
Beyond his professional career, Buster’s service to his country during World War II is a chapter of his life that cannot be overlooked. A proud Army Veteran, he served with honor during one of the most unruly periods in history. He was a recipient of the Purple Heart, a prestigious award given to those wounded or killed in action, a testament to the sacrifices he made for the country. His bravery and commitment to defending his country left a lasting impact, not only on his family but also on the broader community. For many, Buster was a symbol of the selflessness that defines the very essence of service.
Family: The Heart of Buster’s World
At the core of Buster’s life was his love for his family. He was the proud father of two daughters, Willodene Cruz and Sherrill Duenas, both of Stafford. His legacy extended to his grandchildren and great-grandchildren, with Buster being the patriarch of a large family. He had nine grandchildren and 22 great-grandchildren, all of whom were influenced by his strength and values. His wisdom, guidance, and enduring love formed the foundation on which his children and grandchildren built their lives.
Buster was also the father of the late Mary Catherine Childress, a loss that no doubt deeply affected him. The loss of a child is one of the most painful experiences a parent can face. Despite his own grief, Buster continued to hold his family close, offering them support and love throughout the years.
Furthermore, he was the widower of Mary Elizabeth Abel, with whom he shared a life full of love and companionship. The passage of time and the loss of his wife brought their share of heartache. Buster’s strength in the face of adversity was evident in his unwavering devotion to his children and his community. He never let grief overshadow his role as a father, brother, and friend.
Buster’s relationship with his siblings was also a significant part of his life. He was one of a large family, with four sisters, Arlene Taylor, Maggie Maggard, Rosie Perry, and Louise Simmons, and three brothers, Osie N. Abel Jr., Ricky N. Abel, and Woodrow Abel. The ties of family ran deep for Buster. His relationships with his siblings were an integral part of his life. Family gatherings offered a steady source of comfort. Shared experiences with his brothers and sisters brought him great joy.
A Love for Country Music
Outside of his work and family life, Buster had a passion that brought him much joy: country music. He was known to have a deep love for the genre. It was a passion that no doubt resonated with the people around him. Music has a way of connecting people across time and space. For Buster, country music was more than just entertainment. It was a reflection of his life. The themes of resilience, love, loss, and hard work found in country songs deeply resonated with Buster. They reflected the very essence of who he was as a man.
In the evenings, after a long day’s work, Buster often enjoyed his favorite country songs, letting the melodies and lyrics provide solace and reflection. Whether he was relaxing at home or spending time with family, country music was always a part of the fabric of his life. It is no surprise that this passion became something that he shared with his loved ones, passing on his love for the genre to future generations.
Remembering Buster
Moreover, Joseph Monroe “Buster” Abel was not just a Veteran or a hard-working man. He was a father, a brother, a grandfather, and a friend. His life was shaped by the deep love he had for his family. He also held great respect for his country. Music brought him a sense of peace and joy. The values he lived by, service, dedication, love, and resilience, live on in the hearts of his children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren.
Though Buster passed away in 2001, his legacy remains alive in the stories told by those who knew him best. His two daughters, Willodene and Sherrill, carry on his memory, as do his many siblings, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren. Buster’s life was a testament to the enduring power of family. His memory will continue to inspire those who follow in his footsteps.
As we remember Buster, we celebrate a life well-lived. He marked his journey with service to his country, devotion to his family, and a love for music that transcended the ordinary. Joseph Monroe “Buster” Abel may no longer be with us. But his spirit lives on in the hearts of all who had the privilege of knowing him.
